4 Vital Keys to Extraordinary Leadership

4 Vital Keys to Extraordinary Leadership

There is a lot of talk about leadership today. The leadership discussion has also swept into the Church as well, and for good reason. The Church is an organization, and where you have an organization, you need leadership.

One question we need to ask is how do we evaluate leadership as a church? Are there different standards of leadership? Are they all equal? Are there versions of leadership that are injurious to the Church or morally wrong? We need to think long and hard about this. It is easy to nod the head and adopt language, ideas, theory, and methodology without deep evaluation that are possibly contrary to the mission of…

7 Signs of a “Rescuer” and What to do About it

7 Signs of a “Rescuer” and What to do About it

Relationships are tough, whether in the home or in the work place. But if you want to be successful, you need to learn how to be both insightful and generous. Your insightfulness should cut both ways, not just toward others, but toward yourself. As you read through these points, you will definitely see others in it. The real exercise is can see yourself in them, and begin to adjust becoming a better spouse, parent, coworker, boss, or leader.

Building Emotional Integrity II. | What Differentiation of Self is NOT

Building Emotional Integrity II. | What Differentiation of Self is NOT

In this installment I want to offer a contrast. In our first post Building Emotional Integrity I. | Differentiation of Self we defined the concept of self-differentiation. But I want to clarify it a bit more here. Sometimes a principle can be easily misunderstood. So the common pedagogical practice of also defining what it is not can easily dispel common misconceptions…

How Christianity Sacked Rome with the Good-News | An Admonishment to A Waning Western Church

How Christianity Sacked Rome with the Good-News | An Admonishment to A Waning Western Church

The present problem is that in many ways, the Church in the west is waning. It is not getting stronger, but weaker. The behavior and culture of the early church present an instructive example from which to look. We of course cannot recreate the exact same conditions. But speaker and business coach Brian Tracy has observed that if you want to be successful at something, then look at someone who already succeeded at it, and then just do what they did.(2) So perhaps the early Church has some insights that we can successfully apply to the culture…

Building Emotional Integrity I. | Differentiation of Self

Building Emotional Integrity I. | Differentiation of Self

What is differentiation? Differentiation describes a person’s ability to operate from their true or “basic self” as opposed to a pseudo self. It is the emotional capacity to make decisions for self in light of the influence of others in a relationship. Essentially the higher the level of differentiation…

Learning to Forgive Yourself | Understanding Our Projected and Protected Identity

Learning to Forgive Yourself | Understanding Our Projected and Protected Identity

We normally put our best foot forward conveniently leaving out the details we do not like. For simplicity’s sake, we can call this our projected identity. It is the personal narrative that we “want” people to know about us. Or perhaps more importantly it is the way we want people to perceive and think about us. We could think of it like painting a picture. A skilled artist paints the picture he wants his audience to see; a skilled author writes a story she wants her readers to read…