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Is Bitterness Ruining Your Marriage and Relationships?

Is Bitterness Ruining Your Marriage and Relationships?

Are you secretly damaging your relationships? It is easy to do if you are harboring bitterness. It can come out of nowhere. Hebrews 12:15 says, “See to it that no one fail to obtain the grace of God; that no ‘root of bitterness’ spring up and cause trouble, and by it many become defiled.” The consequences of unresolved anger and bitterness are costly. It destroys marriages, families, and even organizations. It destroys lives too. We cannot just “let it go.”…

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4 Misconceptions on How to Disciple Young Adults

4 Misconceptions on How to Disciple Young Adults

Most Christian parents have a general concept of spiritually forming their children. But as they grow, the job gets a little more intimidating…The key to discipling young adults is influence. When they are little, you tell them when to go to bed, when to eat, when to do their homework. It is not that way with adults. Our spiritual direction progresses to a role of respectful influence…

4 Vital Keys to Extraordinary Leadership

4 Vital Keys to Extraordinary Leadership

There is a lot of talk about leadership today. The leadership discussion has also swept into the Church as well, and for good reason. The Church is an organization, and where you have an organization, you need leadership.

One question we need to ask is how do we evaluate leadership as a church? Are there different standards of leadership? Are they all equal? Are there versions of leadership that are injurious to the Church or morally wrong? We need to think long and hard about this. It is easy to nod the head and adopt language, ideas, theory, and methodology without deep evaluation that are possibly contrary to the mission of…

Building Emotional Integrity I. | Differentiation of Self

Building Emotional Integrity I. | Differentiation of Self

What is differentiation? Differentiation describes a person’s ability to operate from their true or “basic self” as opposed to a pseudo self. It is the emotional capacity to make decisions for self in light of the influence of others in a relationship. Essentially the higher the level of differentiation…

3 Reasons You Should Not Follow Your Heart

3 Reasons You Should Not Follow Your Heart

One thing I have found about decision-making is this: If you “follow your heart” that is precisely what you do—You follow rather than lead! That will devolve into your default pattern of life—following. Leadership takes, principle, courage, and thinking. By following our feelings we typically give up our free decision making power by letting the instinctive quest for comfort dominate us.

Understanding Your Fears, Your Gifts, & God’s Unfailing Love For You

Understanding Your Fears, Your Gifts, & God’s Unfailing Love For You

Many of us are robbed of our potential by fear. For many the greatest fear we face is the fear of failure. Subsequently this is often linked to, or even fortified by our own failures. When we fail, it always seems there is someone right there to accuse us and remind us of our failure. In fact the Hebrew name for the devil in the Bible “Satan” actually means “accuser!” Recently my wife and I watched the movie Ragamuffin, the…

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