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Learning How to Think about Your Thinking

Learning How to Think about Your Thinking

Awareness of Our Awareness Our thinking is perhaps the most involuntary, most instinctual function of being human.  We think without thinking! This is because there are different centers of the brain. And if you do not learn to tell them where to get off, they will take over. The biggest problem we have in conducting ourselves is lacking “awareness of our awareness.” Why is this? We typically work from the wrong region of the brain. That Sneaky Little Lizard Brain…

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Resolving Conflict with Disarming Calm: Responding Like Jesus

Resolving Conflict with Disarming Calm: Responding Like Jesus

Relationships are not easy. To be in a relationship usually means that parties will be resolving conflict at some point. There is a quiet calmness about Jesus’ ministry. When reading the Gospels I cannot think of any place where he shows anger, other than when clearing the temple. Throughout his ministry he encountered many difficult people and situations that made him have to manage conflict. To all of them he responded with wisdom and calm. One such text is Matthew…

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3 Reasons You Should Not Follow Your Heart

3 Reasons You Should Not Follow Your Heart

One thing I have found about decision-making is this: If you “follow your heart” that is precisely what you do—You follow rather than lead! That will devolve into your default pattern of life—following. Leadership takes, principle, courage, and thinking. By following our feelings we typically give up our free decision making power by letting the instinctive quest for comfort dominate us.

7 Easy Steps Toward Becoming a Better Listener

7 Easy Steps Toward Becoming a Better Listener

We all know what it is like to not feel listened to. It hurts when you are sitting there with a friend or loved-one and they are so busy making rebuttals that they are arguing against things you are not even saying. It is frustrating and discouraging.  But we should not be too quick to judge everyone else. Do we have good listening skills ourselves? Or do we go on the defensive when we are challenged too? Are we so…

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What Does Discipleship Have to Do with Emotional Health?

What Does Discipleship Have to Do with Emotional Health?

What does discipleship have to do with mental and emotional health? For some that might be a novel question. Emotions have everything to do with discipleship. The morally wrong things (sin) we do to ourselves and each other lead to the deep emotional wounds most of us carry. Discipleship is learning to tame the emotions through the truth of the Gospel. There is growing clinical and professional literature today on what is called “emotional intelligence” or emotional functioning. As businesses…

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