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3 Steps to Overcoming Anger and Anxiety | RE-POST

3 Steps to Overcoming Anger and Anxiety | RE-POST

There on the cool lime stone floor sat a man with a crippled hand. He probably did not have high expectations or hope of healing that day. He was probably just coming to participate in the run of the mill synagogue service as he had been raised to do. But that day Jesus took notice . . .

Is Bitterness Ruining Your Marriage and Relationships?

Is Bitterness Ruining Your Marriage and Relationships?

Are you secretly damaging your relationships? It is easy to do if you are harboring bitterness. It can come out of nowhere. Hebrews 12:15 says, “See to it that no one fail to obtain the grace of God; that no ‘root of bitterness’ spring up and cause trouble, and by it many become defiled.” The consequences of unresolved anger and bitterness are costly. It destroys marriages, families, and even organizations. It destroys lives too. We cannot just “let it go.”…

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7 Signs of a “Rescuer” and What to do About it

7 Signs of a “Rescuer” and What to do About it

Relationships are tough, whether in the home or in the work place. But if you want to be successful, you need to learn how to be both insightful and generous. Your insightfulness should cut both ways, not just toward others, but toward yourself. As you read through these points, you will definitely see others in it. The real exercise is can see yourself in them, and begin to adjust becoming a better spouse, parent, coworker, boss, or leader.

Building Emotional Integrity II. | What Differentiation of Self is NOT

Building Emotional Integrity II. | What Differentiation of Self is NOT

In this installment I want to offer a contrast. In our first post Building Emotional Integrity I. | Differentiation of Self we defined the concept of self-differentiation. But I want to clarify it a bit more here. Sometimes a principle can be easily misunderstood. So the common pedagogical practice of also defining what it is not can easily dispel common misconceptions…

Building Emotional Integrity I. | Differentiation of Self

Building Emotional Integrity I. | Differentiation of Self

What is differentiation? Differentiation describes a person’s ability to operate from their true or “basic self” as opposed to a pseudo self. It is the emotional capacity to make decisions for self in light of the influence of others in a relationship. Essentially the higher the level of differentiation…

Learning to Forgive Yourself | Understanding Our Projected and Protected Identity

Learning to Forgive Yourself | Understanding Our Projected and Protected Identity

We normally put our best foot forward conveniently leaving out the details we do not like. For simplicity’s sake, we can call this our projected identity. It is the personal narrative that we “want” people to know about us. Or perhaps more importantly it is the way we want people to perceive and think about us. We could think of it like painting a picture. A skilled artist paints the picture he wants his audience to see; a skilled author writes a story she wants her readers to read…

Learning How to Think about Your Thinking

Learning How to Think about Your Thinking

Awareness of Our Awareness Our thinking is perhaps the most involuntary, most instinctual function of being human.  We think without thinking! This is because there are different centers of the brain. And if you do not learn to tell them where to get off, they will take over. The biggest problem we have in conducting ourselves is lacking “awareness of our awareness.” Why is this? We typically work from the wrong region of the brain. That Sneaky Little Lizard Brain…

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